Hey! Wait a minute! Who, Me Nag? But I am a life coach who writes a blog and... I wish I had a dollar for every time I slip and NAG! Nagging is ugly. It sucks everything out of everyone involved, and by the way, is totally ineffective. I think it can be a parent addiction. In effect, the NAGGER is telling the NAGGEE that they are incapable of dealing with their own stuff.
There is a better way and an antidote! I am going to give you a link to an article that you must read... but only if you mark my blog as one of your favorites and come back and visit with me again... Better yet, email this to other parents of teens and young adults and let them know about all the good practical stuff you learn here.
"What Shamu Taught Me About A Happy Marriage" by Amy Sutherland. It was printed in the NY Times in 2006.
She states, "Like most humans, I'd been brought up to focus on what bothered me in other people and heap attention on that." Really, I can't imagine that, can you? She goes on to state in her interview regarding her new book, in Bostonia Fall 2008, "I had to look at my own behavior and consider how I might be fueling in ssomeone else's behavior I didn't want or didn't like." Now that hurts...
The older my children get, the more I realize that as they grow up, I am growing up too. Remember, we are all works in process. Sometimes it makes sense to think more like a dog trainer than a parent. Willie, my dog and people trainer, would agree with that one,
Hang in there,
Anne
The life coach in me can't resist... Fill in the blanks...
____________________________ really bothers me. Instead of nagging about it, I will focus on __________________________________.
Write and let us know how it works for you!
